Body-Language to Avoid (part 2)

Yes, I'm back with more body language to avoid... Hope you all have been practicing...

• Standing Too Close: This just makes people feel uncomfortable. Most people consider the four square feet of space immediately surrounding their body their personal space. Cross this invisible boundary with good friends and intimate mates only.
• Looking Down While in the Presence of Others: Usually indicates disinterest. Sometimes it’s even interpreted as a casual sign of arrogance. Always look straight ahead and make eye contact when you see someone you know.
• Touching Your Face During a Conversation: Face touching, especially on the nose, is commonly interpreted as an indication of deception. Also, covering up the mouth is a common gesture people make when they’re lying. Always keep your hands away from your face when you’re speaking.
• Faking a Smile: Another sign of deception commonly seen on the face of a fraud. A genuine smile wrinkles the corners of the eyes and changes the expression of the entire face. Fake smiles only involve the mouth and lips. It’s easy to distinguish between the two. Don’t force yourself to smile … unless it’s for the camera.
• Leaning Away From Someone You Like: A sign of being bored and disinterested. Some people may also interpret it to mean “I don’t like you.” People typically lean toward someone they like and away from someone they dislike. This is especially true when sitting around a table. If you lean away from someone you like, you’re sending him or her the wrong message.

Well, this is it for now... until I figure out what else is there before I continue with this series... & remember...
PRACTICE!!!

The MTV that got the whole music industry talking...

Yes!!! Christina Aguilera has done it... like again... Christina Aguilera's latest MV "You Lost Me" which premiered yesterday evening, had the industry talking.

In the MV, Christina Aguilera cries her eyes out, and looks great doing it. The concept of the MV was simple yet able to strip you totally naked emotionally. "You Lost Me" was totally the opposite of her previous MV "Not Myself Tonight".

"You Lost Me" begins with an extreme close-up of a gun barrel while Christina Aguilera sings, "I am done, Smoking gun.We've lost it all, the love is gone." Christina Aguilera then wanders through a deserted bedroom and lays down in the dirt, but like a vintage Hollywood vixen, she always remains unmatchablely glamorous, even while mascara streams down her cheeks.

"You Lost Me" received comment like "We expect more but there wasn't.", "It's too long & boring." & alot more alike those two I've mentioned. "You Lost Me" was compared to "Not Myself Tonight" hence the expectations for entertainment. Personally, "You Lost Me" was a Big thing for me as it really show who can & who can't sing in the industry.

Christina Aguilera don't need great clothes or great Auto- tune for that matter to produce something that her fans would love & hunger for. It Totally proves the point that Christina Aguilera is the Queen who reign supreme & of cause owns the Throne.

Body-Language to Avoid

Our body language exhibits far more information about how we feel than it’s possible to articulate verbally. All of the physical gestures we make are subconsciously interpreted by others. This can work for or against us depending on the kind of body language we use. Some gestures project a very positive message, while others do nothing but set a negative tone.
Most people are totally oblivious to their own body language, so the discipline of controlling these gestures can be quite challenging. Many of them are reflexive in nature, automatically matching up to what our minds are thinking at any given moment. Nevertheless, with the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of our negative body language habits. Here's a few for you to ponder and absorb before I start blasting more at you...

1. Holding Objects in Front of Your Body: A coffee cup, notebook, handbag, etc. Holding objects in front of your body indicates shyness and resistance, and conveys that you’re hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others. Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.
2. Checking the Time or Inspecting Your Fingernails: A strong sign of boredom. Never glance at the time when you’re speaking with someone. Likewise, completely avoid the act of inspecting your fingernails.
3. Picking Lint off Your Clothes: If you pick lint off your clothes during a conversation, especially in conjunction with looking downward, most people will assume that you disapprove of their ideas and/or feel uneasy about giving them an honest opinion. Leave the lint alone!
4. Stroking Your Chin While Looking at Someone: “I’m judging you!” People frequently stroke their chin during the decision-making process. If you look at someone while you’re stroking your chin, they may assume that you’re making a judgmental decision about them.
5. Narrowing Your Eyes: If you want to give someone the impression that you don’t like them (or their ideas), narrow your eyes while looking at them. It immediately places a scowling expression on your face. A slight narrowing of the eyes is an instinctual, universal expression of anger across various species in the animal kingdom (think about the angry expressions of tigers, dogs, etc.). Some people make the mistake of narrowing their eyes during a conversation as a reflex of thinking. Don’t send people the wrong message … don’t narrow your eyes. Of cause, unless you can smile with ur eyes likee Tyra Banks...

Ok... that's it for now... so start practising!!! until next time...

Reflection

Suddenly, while I was listening to some songs, it just hits me that "Who or What am I really like?"

I seriously asked myself. For those who have known me for over a period of time will tell you that I have changed. So much so that they literally Can't Keep Up with What I Create. Well, I learn Drama so, Personification, is something simple for me. But now, I'm feeling kinda Lost inside myself.

It kind of bothers me that I may have push my Personification into Bipolar disorder. Its overwhelming sometimes when people just try so darn hard trying to bring you down & all you have is yourself. & you know, & you know that you don't have what it takes to stand up.

In my case, I tell myself, you got to have it & even if you really don have it in you? FAKE IT! BITCH! Yes! Faking & Lying to yourself that you have something which you don't, is the 1st step to believing. If you, yourself don't believe in something, how can you possibly think that you can make others believe that?

I seriously need time to Mediate & get reconnected to my True self. That's it for now, will write more about my Bipolar disorder on the next post.. :)

The Next Generation’s Great Gay Icon!!!

Nope, this is not from my own personal view but Christina Aguilera got the most vote on a gay website. Yes, it's official. Christina Aguilera's ever changing style has evolute her from pop princess to the sultry yet classy LegendTina in a mere decade. Plus she possesses one of the best and most powerful voices of her generation. Then there is the fact she is also a strong supporter of gay rights & is identified as bisexual. Seriously, if Christina did not get the votes, Britney comes in 2nd. "Oh My God!!!" you say? Yes! Believe it! Britney(in the vote) came in 2nd losing to the Legendary Christina by over 6% of the overall votes. Seriously, where do we even begin? From her crazy antics including shaving her head in front of the world, pantyless public appearances, a 55 hour marriage, and her drug treatment, she isn’t exactly a role model. I mean, isn’t this the woman that married Kevin Federline? Perhaps not the best of choices.

Of cause in the race to the finish line, we found Singers like Beyonce Knowles, Pink, Kylie Minogue & Adam Lambert. There was also Entertainers like Lady Gaga in it, who came in 3rd(seriously, is there anything that Lady Gaga could beat Christina Aguilera in?) &Worse! People across the web are ripping Christina Aguilera apart for her video "Not Myself Tonight" calling it a Lady Gaga ripoff. I think that people forget Christina Aguilera did sexy well back on her "Stripped" album. I'm glad to have Christina Aguilera back, because she's got one of the best sets of pipes (if it's not already The BEST) in the industry.

Some of you might be wondering, "What does being a Gay Icon have to do with Fashion?". Well, let me tell you, being a Gay Icon makes you highly Influential to Gays who are probably Fashion Icon & people who is influenced by Fashion Icons are actually indirectly influenced by... YES! CHRISTINA AGUILERA!!! Believe it!

Anyway just wanna Congratulate Christina Aguilera for being "The Next Generation’s Great Gay Icon"!!! LOVE You Christina!

Wear your look & Not letting your look wear you.

You are confused? Yes, I know. All I'm trying to say is wear your clothes & not the clothes wear you. Still don't get it?

Let's take a friend of mine for example, he has very puffed up & straight hair so the last thing he would wanna have is a "not too short but not too long" hair, cause it's gonna make his head look big. Real BIG! He went to many different salons, both High end & low end, but he ALWAYS end up with some horrifying hair cut out & you know why? Cause the stylist would suggest going short at the sides but my friend will go like "I don't want it short, I just wanna cut a little." Then the stylist suggest that he grow it long(around e jawline kind of length) but then again he will reply "I don't want it so long & when growing, it's gonna look horrible." So of cause as a stylist, they have to give what the customer wants even if it's gonna look screwed. So after the hair cut, which look totally screwed up, he would walk out of the salon complaining that the stylist is skill-less. Seriously, it's not the stylist, I've cut his hair before & he said I screw it too. This happen so often(actually, history repeats itself everytime he steps into a salon)

So eventually I asked him why didn't he wanna get short hair?
His answer may just make some of your laugh & some others thinking hard.
"Cutting your hair on the sides short is for Gays only & I'm trying very hard to be discreet, cutting it short will blow my cover."
My reaction? Laugh my face off!!!
After the good laugh, I asked him then why not keep it longer?
He answered "That will make me look like a Tranny!(Trans-Gender)"
Seriously, if you're reading this don't get upset. Cause it's the Truth! So Face it!

Can you see? He is letting his hair wear him. He is setting up weird boundaries & I'm not getting it?
He is like tarnishing his image just because he feels that Short hair on the sides=GAY!!!
Seriously? Is he like Homophobic, even though he's a gay himself?
Anyway, not going to the gay topic. He is just too uptight about his image.

So please, don't be like him! Enjoy the Freedom of Expression & love whatever you've produced. Let no one stop you, You know that I'm talking to YOU!

Must-have fashion accessories this year!

In fashion, everything that is out of date is in fact the past played in present in a different perspective. For this year, fashion has gone back to basics to an old punk rock but with class. Examples, you ask? Christina Aguilera(Xtina's style 2010) & Rihanna. I'm not much a fan of Rihanna's music but I sure am a fan of her fashion style! :D

So here comes the list:

1. Boots are the first must-have item this season. But not all of them will do: tall, knee-high boots are the best footwear option for everything.
2. High-waist trousers are still in fashion(seriously, when were they out?) if you want, you can also wear opaque stockings with short pants.
3. The military jacket will be a staple piece for this year's winter wardrobe. Whether worn in a masculine or feminine way, the military jacket is a must-have item that will jazz up a normally boring old wardrobe.
4. Trench coats are total the thing like forever. pair it with a knee-high boots & you'll get Christina Aguilera's style going on.(Totally HOT!)

5. "BIONIC" I'm sure for those who are not a fan, your have no idea whatI'm talkin about. "Bionic" is Christina Aguilera's new album. It's named "Album of 2010 That Matter Most".

You THOUGHT that Christina Aguilera's 2010 MTV Movie Awards medley performance of "Bionic," "Not Myself Tonight" and "Woohoo," from her "Bionic", was all about her "I'm-still-a-Diva" vocals, frenzied stage show, and adult-only innuendo. And you were right. And then this happened.

SURPRISE! This is so just Christina Aguilera's way of saying she loves you! And that this Diva still has a sense of humor.

Say I'm Vain, whatever.

Seriously, I'm just going through a phrase in life which I'm just not comfortable in my own skin. I don't really know how to put it in words but I'm going through is just crazy & to make matter worst, I have tons of crazy people labeling me as either vain, trying too hard to be different or that I just like competitions. Seriously, those people should totally just don't try so darn hard to think that they understand me. Cause they don't & to make matter worse they restrict me from being myself when I'm trying just as hard to not be myself. Sometime, we just have to let ourselves be cause we're trying too hard to live up to other or maybe even our own expectations.

Quote of the Day

"I don't mean to be a Diva, but some days you wake up and you're Barbara Streisand." ~ Courtney Love

I personally knid of relate to this. It's really what I feel sometimes when I wake up & I'm like feeling all so Christina Aguilerized.(if you get what I mean) It's funny but it's true & it's kinda great too, you feel that you put on anything or say anything is The THING!(if you get what I means you get it, if not you'll never get it) You'll just feel all so empowered. Seriously, hope that you wake up tomorrow & feel this way, everyday. :p

Grooming is so Darn Important!

You can buy the best clothes and accessories, however, if you don't take care of yourself first then you're only making that expensive wardrobe look cheap.

1st of all basics of hygiene is a must. When it comes to extraneous hair(for the Guys), schedule time to trim your nose hairs and other body hair. Keep regular salon appointment(3 to 6weeks depending on the hair styles & yes, this applies to the Ladies as well. But for the Ladies, slighty longer intervals can be taken for those with long locks, if not, no exceptions) to keep yourself from becoming lazy with your hairstyle. For the nails, don't forget the regular upkeep. Oh & yes, skipping a shower is simply not allowed. The importance of a second shower before going anywhere in the evening should never be forgotten. You may have showered in the morning when you wake up but seriously, your going out at about 4pm & your not getting your second shower before going out? You sure about that?

2nd, Wash your face PROPERLY!(This applies to the guys but maybe applicable to certain Ladies as well)
Yes, gentlemen, they actually play an important role by keeping your face and skin healthy. Modern men cannot live by soap and water alone lest you end up with cracked and broken skin. They might be called men’s cosmetics but the following three items form the foundation of healthy grooming: cleansers, toners and moisturizers. A cleanser will go beyond simple soap and remove the dirt and grime that build up in your pores during a hard day. A toner tightens your skin making it tougher for the elements to penetrate, while a moisturizer keeps your skin hydrated. Dry, cracking skin allows germs and dirt into your body (Is that what you want? Didn’t think so). Clean, taught and hydrated skin is your first line of defense against the outside world. Seriously, I have so many guys friends that don't believe in SkinCare. They wash their face with Shower Gel(OMG! Yes, shower gel) dehydrating your face badly, don't even apply moisturizer after that(of cause, they're too lazy to even get a proper facial wash & I'm expecting moisturizer?) & I have friend who DON'T even wash his face!(Yes! he don't believe in washing his face, he just wipe them with water) Seriously, do you still want your face?

3rd, Exfoliate, help your skin rejuvenate itself by removing dead skin cells and debris with an Exfoliator or a Scrub(but personally find scrubs too harsh on the face) You don’t have to do this everyday, a few times a week will do the trick. For deep exfoliation, you could use an exfoliating mask that goes on soft and hardens while soaking up the debris on your skin.

Finally, use a perfume or cologne, & make sure you choose the right one for yourself.
Firstly, you have to understand Perfume's structure. All perfume have 3notes, Top note, Heart note & the Base note.(nope, this has nothing 2 do with your singing notes) Top note is the scent that evaporates first right when you spray on, it last around 10 to 15mins(there are some exceptionally long lasting ones that last for up to 30mins), Heart note that develops a little later & finally the Base note reveals itself.

Don't try more than two scents at a time; you simply won't be able to make a judgment. Spray a spot and don't rub it, you will spoil the composition. Wait for ten minutes allowing the base note to develop before making the decision. Sometimes the base note can take hours to develop. It is a good idea to get a sample and make the purchase the next day.

Don't buy a perfume simply because it is the launch of the season. Check it and see if it really appeals you. After all, you have to walk around with it the whole day. You buy perfumes for yourself and not for people. Any perfume that satisfies you will reflect well with your personality.

You don't have to wear a perfume like a uniform! Try different brands and class of scents. You can use different smells for different times of the day or for your different moods.

Lastly, If you have sensitive skin you should avoid the less expensive mass-produced colognes that contain additives. Stay with organic producers with heavier scents fit for dry skin tones.

Let's Get Groom!

Fashion, Trends, What's in & What's out?

Well, this will be my 1st post on this new blog of mine. Hope it's not my last.

I'm someone who believes in statement, as in Fashion Statement. Never a fan of Trend, of cause unless I personally feel that the trend will become an Iconic thing someday. I like things Classy, cause they are a fashion statement. They are never in, nor are they ever out. Icons like Christina Aguilera, Bags & Shoes from Christian Louboutin are great examples of a Fashion Statement.

Well so here's some stuff we should include in our Fashion Check List if we wanna dress to kill:

For the Ladies

1. Raggedy flip flops & baby tees with clever quotes on the front.TRASH THEM ALL IMMEDIATELY. You’re a grown up, so dress like one
2. Empire waist dresses, long flowing summer dresses, A-line minis and summer shorts. Yes, both the empire waist dress and A-Line mini are still going strong after years. Both are generally figure flattering and can be dressed up or down for every occasion.
3. Before puting away your knee high boots and get into your flip flops or sandals make sure you keep your pedicurist on speed dial.

For the Boys

1. Lose the cheap jewelry, knock it off with the novelty necklaces. Real men know that men’s jewelry should be simple and understated. Feed your need for bling with a single statement piece like a bold watch.
2. Shorts should be slimmer, unpleated and never go below the knees
3. No more freebie tees. They’re great for the gym, sleeping and working with heavy machinery ONLY!