Body-Language to Avoid (part 2)

Yes, I'm back with more body language to avoid... Hope you all have been practicing...

• Standing Too Close: This just makes people feel uncomfortable. Most people consider the four square feet of space immediately surrounding their body their personal space. Cross this invisible boundary with good friends and intimate mates only.
• Looking Down While in the Presence of Others: Usually indicates disinterest. Sometimes it’s even interpreted as a casual sign of arrogance. Always look straight ahead and make eye contact when you see someone you know.
• Touching Your Face During a Conversation: Face touching, especially on the nose, is commonly interpreted as an indication of deception. Also, covering up the mouth is a common gesture people make when they’re lying. Always keep your hands away from your face when you’re speaking.
• Faking a Smile: Another sign of deception commonly seen on the face of a fraud. A genuine smile wrinkles the corners of the eyes and changes the expression of the entire face. Fake smiles only involve the mouth and lips. It’s easy to distinguish between the two. Don’t force yourself to smile … unless it’s for the camera.
• Leaning Away From Someone You Like: A sign of being bored and disinterested. Some people may also interpret it to mean “I don’t like you.” People typically lean toward someone they like and away from someone they dislike. This is especially true when sitting around a table. If you lean away from someone you like, you’re sending him or her the wrong message.

Well, this is it for now... until I figure out what else is there before I continue with this series... & remember...
PRACTICE!!!

Body-Language to Avoid

Our body language exhibits far more information about how we feel than it’s possible to articulate verbally. All of the physical gestures we make are subconsciously interpreted by others. This can work for or against us depending on the kind of body language we use. Some gestures project a very positive message, while others do nothing but set a negative tone.
Most people are totally oblivious to their own body language, so the discipline of controlling these gestures can be quite challenging. Many of them are reflexive in nature, automatically matching up to what our minds are thinking at any given moment. Nevertheless, with the right information and a little practice, we can train ourselves to overcome most of our negative body language habits. Here's a few for you to ponder and absorb before I start blasting more at you...

1. Holding Objects in Front of Your Body: A coffee cup, notebook, handbag, etc. Holding objects in front of your body indicates shyness and resistance, and conveys that you’re hiding behind the objects in an effort to separate yourself from others. Instead of carrying objects in front of you, carry them at your side whenever possible.
2. Checking the Time or Inspecting Your Fingernails: A strong sign of boredom. Never glance at the time when you’re speaking with someone. Likewise, completely avoid the act of inspecting your fingernails.
3. Picking Lint off Your Clothes: If you pick lint off your clothes during a conversation, especially in conjunction with looking downward, most people will assume that you disapprove of their ideas and/or feel uneasy about giving them an honest opinion. Leave the lint alone!
4. Stroking Your Chin While Looking at Someone: “I’m judging you!” People frequently stroke their chin during the decision-making process. If you look at someone while you’re stroking your chin, they may assume that you’re making a judgmental decision about them.
5. Narrowing Your Eyes: If you want to give someone the impression that you don’t like them (or their ideas), narrow your eyes while looking at them. It immediately places a scowling expression on your face. A slight narrowing of the eyes is an instinctual, universal expression of anger across various species in the animal kingdom (think about the angry expressions of tigers, dogs, etc.). Some people make the mistake of narrowing their eyes during a conversation as a reflex of thinking. Don’t send people the wrong message … don’t narrow your eyes. Of cause, unless you can smile with ur eyes likee Tyra Banks...

Ok... that's it for now... so start practising!!! until next time...

Grooming is so Darn Important!

You can buy the best clothes and accessories, however, if you don't take care of yourself first then you're only making that expensive wardrobe look cheap.

1st of all basics of hygiene is a must. When it comes to extraneous hair(for the Guys), schedule time to trim your nose hairs and other body hair. Keep regular salon appointment(3 to 6weeks depending on the hair styles & yes, this applies to the Ladies as well. But for the Ladies, slighty longer intervals can be taken for those with long locks, if not, no exceptions) to keep yourself from becoming lazy with your hairstyle. For the nails, don't forget the regular upkeep. Oh & yes, skipping a shower is simply not allowed. The importance of a second shower before going anywhere in the evening should never be forgotten. You may have showered in the morning when you wake up but seriously, your going out at about 4pm & your not getting your second shower before going out? You sure about that?

2nd, Wash your face PROPERLY!(This applies to the guys but maybe applicable to certain Ladies as well)
Yes, gentlemen, they actually play an important role by keeping your face and skin healthy. Modern men cannot live by soap and water alone lest you end up with cracked and broken skin. They might be called men’s cosmetics but the following three items form the foundation of healthy grooming: cleansers, toners and moisturizers. A cleanser will go beyond simple soap and remove the dirt and grime that build up in your pores during a hard day. A toner tightens your skin making it tougher for the elements to penetrate, while a moisturizer keeps your skin hydrated. Dry, cracking skin allows germs and dirt into your body (Is that what you want? Didn’t think so). Clean, taught and hydrated skin is your first line of defense against the outside world. Seriously, I have so many guys friends that don't believe in SkinCare. They wash their face with Shower Gel(OMG! Yes, shower gel) dehydrating your face badly, don't even apply moisturizer after that(of cause, they're too lazy to even get a proper facial wash & I'm expecting moisturizer?) & I have friend who DON'T even wash his face!(Yes! he don't believe in washing his face, he just wipe them with water) Seriously, do you still want your face?

3rd, Exfoliate, help your skin rejuvenate itself by removing dead skin cells and debris with an Exfoliator or a Scrub(but personally find scrubs too harsh on the face) You don’t have to do this everyday, a few times a week will do the trick. For deep exfoliation, you could use an exfoliating mask that goes on soft and hardens while soaking up the debris on your skin.

Finally, use a perfume or cologne, & make sure you choose the right one for yourself.
Firstly, you have to understand Perfume's structure. All perfume have 3notes, Top note, Heart note & the Base note.(nope, this has nothing 2 do with your singing notes) Top note is the scent that evaporates first right when you spray on, it last around 10 to 15mins(there are some exceptionally long lasting ones that last for up to 30mins), Heart note that develops a little later & finally the Base note reveals itself.

Don't try more than two scents at a time; you simply won't be able to make a judgment. Spray a spot and don't rub it, you will spoil the composition. Wait for ten minutes allowing the base note to develop before making the decision. Sometimes the base note can take hours to develop. It is a good idea to get a sample and make the purchase the next day.

Don't buy a perfume simply because it is the launch of the season. Check it and see if it really appeals you. After all, you have to walk around with it the whole day. You buy perfumes for yourself and not for people. Any perfume that satisfies you will reflect well with your personality.

You don't have to wear a perfume like a uniform! Try different brands and class of scents. You can use different smells for different times of the day or for your different moods.

Lastly, If you have sensitive skin you should avoid the less expensive mass-produced colognes that contain additives. Stay with organic producers with heavier scents fit for dry skin tones.

Let's Get Groom!